Do you want to know the really good thing about a setback?
A setback gives you the opportunity to show the world what you are made of. You can either become a casualty of the setback or you can triumph over the top of it. Regardless of what you may be thinking right now, I am telling you that your experience comes from the split second decision that you make in that moment. If you pursue any opportunity worth pursuing, setbacks are guaranteed.
Here are my 3 tips for standing up again after a setback:
1. Remember your “why”.
Your “why” is the reason for everything that you do. It may be your family. It may be your dreams. It may be for the freedom to do what you want with the time that you have left. Whatever your why is, it is the most powerful driving force that you’ve got. Placing this as your focus can unleash an animal inside of you if you allow it to happen. Here is a secret around this topic that can help you in your business and in your life. No one can stop you, but YOU. Read that again and again until you believe it with conviction. Stop allowing your circumstances or the opinions of other people to hold you as a prisoner in your own life.
Figure out what you want and go after it until you get it. There are going to be setbacks, so expect and greet them with open arms. When you feel defeated and lack the strength to get up, think about why you are doing what you are doing. This will help to get back on your feet.
2. Learn from your mistakes.
I can still remember learning that “mistakes are bad” when I was just a young elementary school student. What a bunch of crap that is, and I say that because nothing could be further from the truth. Learning cannot happen without making mistakes. If our educational system knows this, why do we get punished for making too many? Life teaches us a very different lesson, and it is one that I actually agree with. Mistakes are not bad, in fact, they are part of the learning process. The real tragedy happens when we make mistakes and fail to learn from them. You must learn from your mistakes and then try again and again and again.
When you find yourself on your knees from a setback, learn from it, rise up and keep moving forward. Once you do this and get through it one time you will be able to do it again and again.
3. Someone is always watching you.
Sometimes we can find ourselves down in the dumps about our situation. We are all human so these type of situations arise from time to time. Not only are we are own worst critics, but it’s easier to let ourselves down than it is to let someone else down. When I first started blogging, I wrote for months on end wondering if anyone out there was reading until one day something changed. A person that I did not know contacted me and confirmed that the message that one of my blogs shared was the exact thing that they needed to hear, at that particular time in their life. This lit a fire in me and made me realize that someone is always watching what I do, reading what I write and listening to what I say on my podcast.
Even when you get tripped up and fall down, you have to get back up. There is someone out there who needs to see you rise up, even more than you need to see this in yourself. Inspiring other people is an incredibly powerful experience and letting someone down is an incredibly disappointing experience. When you fall, stand up my friends.
With all of this said, I will leave you with this incredibly fitting quote from a great keynote speaker:[Tweet “”A setback is a setup for a comeback” – Willie Jolly”]
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