It is often said that we are a reflection of the company that we keep. Are you proud of the person who looks back at you in mirror when you get up in the morning? We are ultimately responsible for our own actions and the perspective that we embrace our lives with, but our inner circle does have a strong influence over us whether we recognize it or not. The popular number that you hear everyone talk about is the 5 people that you spend the most of your time with. I agree with this and I am here to tell you that this is real and this does have a massive impact on your experience as you move towards you goals.
Before you start trying to justify you inner circle with me or yourself, let me stop you right now and tell you what your response is going to be. There is a good chance that many of these folks are family or old friends. Am I right? I am not suggesting that you cut these people out of your life or treat them any differently, but I am suggesting that you choose the people carefully who you share your dreams with. Dream killers will not inspire you, help you grow or offer any tangible benefit to the attainment of the goals that you have set for yourself. Why not be proactive and only share your plans who people who will support, uplift and encourage your personal growth? One scenario is game ending and the other is game changing. Which outcome do you want for yourself?
We all need to spend time with ourselves, but human interaction is a necessary part of the equation too. I think that you will enjoy your ride significantly more so, if you have the right people in your corner. Think about the most successful boxers that the world has ever known. Now think about the team in their corner. Notice that they are also the best of the best with what they do? Champions run in packs in the same way that losers and criminals run in packs. What attributes do you share with the 5 people that you spend most of your time with? Reflect on that and ultimately you will need to decide if you are the best that you can be. It is your responsibility to set yourself up for success because no one else is going to do it for you. If you haven’t figured it out yet, it is all about the little things and your sustainable motivation and personal development depend on you doing all of the little things correctly.[Tweet “It is your responsibility to set yourself up for success because no one else is going to do it for you.”]
Find people who are doing the things that you also want to be doing. Look for people who are more successful than you and learn their habits and the factors that contribute to their success. Emulate them and challenge yourself to grow and in turn, they may grow from you as well. None of this is a secret or difficult to execute, but it does require actual EFFORT! Do not allow yourself to become a victim of “over analysis paralysis” and just do this for yourself! The sooner you do this simple exercise, the sooner you will know if you need to make some adjustments with the team in your corner. Once you are surrounded with the right players, your personal growing conditions will be optimal.
I am sharing the link to this book which talks about Simple ways to make first good impressions, and teach how to criticize people and not be hated about it. Also making people glad to do what you want.